Fight for your dreams to come to pass

“Hold fast to dreams, For if dreams die,
Life is a broken-winged bird, That cannot fly.” 
― Langston Hughes

I enjoy having after dinner conversations with my mom and dad. When I was a teenager, we would often tease my dad of always providing us “history” lessons. These are lessons of old, old times, lessons we can glean from their family- some of whom I never got the chance to meet as they died when I was so little. As far as I can remember, he would always encourage me to dream. “Iba ang may pangarap.” (It matters when you dream), he would say. It was only when I grew up (read mid-30’s) that I understood fully in my heart what he meant.

Both my parents were born from poor families. My dad was the youngest of 12 siblings. He would often tell me and my brother how he used to walk literally on foot going to school. There were times when they simply cannot afford to buy slippers, nor shoes. In school, he would write so small on his notebook to save on pages and he would try as much as possible to lengthen the life of his pencil. He would often go to school with no money on his pocket, with only camote (sweet potato) or some root crop to fill his tummy.

My mom and her sisters were discouraged from going to school. In the 1960’s, it is but common for girls to work instead of studying, and when they grow up, they usually become housewives. When my mom and her sisters were little, My Grandpa (Lolo) Pulo was determined, despite their poverty, for them to study. After school and during weekends, the siblings would have to do some errands, gather firewood, and sell candles and other items to augment their income. Both my parents know the value of hard work in their early years. This provided a good soil in their hearts for them to dream.

Fast forward to the present, both my parents are now here in the US. God has blessed them with so much and they never forget to thank Him about these everyday. They lead simple lives and are happy about it. My dad worked abroad and have been to many places around the world. He is still employed and he enjoys making music with his dream guitar every evening. He said just looking at it makes him happy. My mom’s dream of  finishing school was realized. She not only passed her board exam in accountancy, making her a CPA, she also has her masters in Business Administration.

I realized that most great dreams are born in challenges.  Most successful people I know would be more than willing to share their stories of difficult times and how they developed the character to attain their life-dreams.

When we dream,  and as long as we are sure that it is a good dream, we have to be ready to defend it.  Others may discourage you and tell you that your dream is simply too grand and expensive. Others may tell you that it is too difficult to reach and the price to be paid is high.  Your next action depends on how strong that dream is in your heart.  While it is God who puts certain dreams in our hearts, He partners with us and lets us decide what to do with it.

What is your dream? How protective, fierce and committed are you in defending your dream?

Hold fast to that dream and don’t you let it die!


What is keeping you from being Brave?

A favorite Disney character of mine is Princess Merida of Brave.  Aside from the red hair, I loved her spirit.  She was filled with spunk, which was not a norm for a princess of her time.  She had to be fragile and docile, or at least, act as one. 

I would love to tell you that  for the most part of my life, I was brave.  Sadly, that is not the case.   There were times when I simply could not make certain BIG decisions as I tend to spend a lot of time weighing pros and cons and then, I get stuck in the process!  And I do get stuck for a long time!  Sometimes, this process of weighing things just gets me nowhere.  It kills momentum.  It robs me of joy and simply thwarts inspiration.  Oh, I’m all for planning, but planning too much for the dress rehearsal and burying, if not, forgetting, the thought of the real curtain act can be so frustrating.  


I can tell you that some of the defining moments in my life was when I said “yes” to life and just “digged-in” with a whole bunch of prayers in my pocket.   My most unforgettable moments happened when I simply had faith that things will be OK and that God has the best plans for me in mind.  For me this included getting married, shifting careers, quitting my job, going to the US, taking classes.  etc..

I guess we all have to accept that life happens to us.  As much as we would like to control it, we couldn’t.  The days in our lives are woven together so tightly as an intricate fabric-  with bright and happy colors, as well as gloomy, sad ones. The best part is that when we look at our lives, years later, we realize that we have created a lovely pattern where dark colors give life to the fabric as bright ones.  Image

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  We have to embrace the fact that our lives are short and that these uncertainties make it more complicated and yet exciting.  One realization is that the more you control things, the more miserable you would be.  When you release and let go,  the more free and happy you’ll become. 
Being brave is a conscious decision we make everyday.  When I grow old, I want to say that I have lived bravely and enjoyed every minute of it. 

Ditch the dilly-dallies and live the brave life you’ve always wanted.